Christmas can be a wonderful time, but it can also bring challenges.
Financial pressures, family conflict, unrealistic expectations, missing loved ones, loneliness, and feelings of isolation are just some of the difficulties people face.
The good news is you have control over how you spend the holidays. Prioritising your wellbeing is what matters most.
Stay Connected
Christmas isn’t all about expensive gifts – it’s about time with the people who matter. It can be easy to get distracted and forget about the importance of connecting with friends, family and loved ones. Spending quality time with those close to you can mean more than the most expensive of presents.
Manage Expectations
Focus on what you can control. Accept that you can’t change how others behave or think, and release any negative feelings. It’s perfectly okay to prioritise what’s best for you. Set your boundaries and don’t hesitate to say no to things.
Take Breaks
If stress levels rise, remember to take a break. Whether it’s a walk, a coffee break, or listening to music, do what helps you relax and unwind. And don’t forget the importance of sleep – stick to your routine and aim for a few early nights.
Everything in Moderation
It’s easy to indulge over Christmas, but it’s important to recognise when you’ve had enough of a good thing. Balance festive nights out and hearty meals with lighter days to give your body a well-deserved break.
Reach Out
If emotions feel overwhelming, don’t hesitate to reach out – whether it’s to a friend, family member, or a professional organisation. Remember, even when it seems like everyone else is having a great time, Christmas can be challenging and isolating. Let others know you’re struggling; you are not alone.
It’s Okay to Say No
Social pressure is real, but there’s no “perfect” Christmas. If you don’t want to go to something, that’s okay! If you do attend events, setting boundaries or planning an exit strategy can help -drive yourself, set a time to leave, or schedule something comforting afterwards.
Plan Ahead
The days between Christmas and New Year can feel strange. Keep some structure to your days – sleep, meals, getting out for a walk – and prepare for triggers like alcohol, financial stress, or isolation.
Keep It Real
Christmas movies and social media don’t show real life. There’s no “perfect” way to spend the day, and Christmas as an adult can feel very different to how it did when you were younger. There’s no one right way to celebrate – just do what is right for you. Remember – it’s just one day.
Talk It Through
Sharing your thoughts with a trusted friend or family member can help to make situations more manageable. They might be able to offer support or recognise when situations may feel overwhelming for you and help you identify this. If talking feels hard, try writing down your thoughts and feelings.
Letting Go of Worry – Our Christmas Tree Reminder
Our “Letting Go of Worry” Christmas tree is here to remind you: don’t hold on to worries you can’t control.
- If something is worrying you and you can’t do anything about it, let it go.
- If you can do something about it now, take action – then let it go.
- If you can’t act now but can later, make a plan – then let it go.
You can download the Letting Go of Worry Tree.